The subject of male and female friendship fascinates me. As an autistic woman, I have never felt that supposed openness and emotional warmth of female friendship. At this point in my life, I question it's existence at least in the modern day. My grandmother was surrounded by female friends whose passing she mourning and she feared being the last one left. My mother had few female friends and was more inclined to pretend to not be home than to welcome visitors. Most of my female relatives have a hodge-podge of male and female friends. I suspect that the female friend groups sought by many male-disinclined feminists are a product of their imaginations or at the least very rare. It is natural to compensate for the things women are denied by pretending that we are really human by having these deep friendships. But my experiences of the world have never lined up with the feminist party line that women-dominated groups are more emotionally open or healthier. Instead I have found that I am most happy in groups that do things together. I'm sure that many will blame my differences for my inability to mesh with these supposed feminine groups, but I wonder if they are so valuable if utter exclusion on the basis of minor differences is the norm. I have no trouble finding mixed sex or male domianted activities and groupings where I am comfortable and don't make others uncomfortable. I highly doubt I am the only woman to think these supposed sex differences are blown vastly out of proportion, but of course that is not a popular idea. Noe is the idea that an emotion obsessed insular group with no common theme beyond entertaining eachother is even more likely to turn toxic than a male dominated fishing (or whatever) group.
Croatia is beautiful. But if you’re gonna make it there, hop on over to Ohrid in Macedonia. It’s magical. And if you’re gonna go that far, might as well visit the Black Sea: my hometown Burgas is gonna be buzzing in the spring time.
Enjoy your honeymoon! So glad to hear that things are opening up for you, and about all of these healthy resolutions.
Have a lovely honeymoon! We did similar, a road trip from France to Croatia, and it was a beautiful adventure.
The subject of male and female friendship fascinates me. As an autistic woman, I have never felt that supposed openness and emotional warmth of female friendship. At this point in my life, I question it's existence at least in the modern day. My grandmother was surrounded by female friends whose passing she mourning and she feared being the last one left. My mother had few female friends and was more inclined to pretend to not be home than to welcome visitors. Most of my female relatives have a hodge-podge of male and female friends. I suspect that the female friend groups sought by many male-disinclined feminists are a product of their imaginations or at the least very rare. It is natural to compensate for the things women are denied by pretending that we are really human by having these deep friendships. But my experiences of the world have never lined up with the feminist party line that women-dominated groups are more emotionally open or healthier. Instead I have found that I am most happy in groups that do things together. I'm sure that many will blame my differences for my inability to mesh with these supposed feminine groups, but I wonder if they are so valuable if utter exclusion on the basis of minor differences is the norm. I have no trouble finding mixed sex or male domianted activities and groupings where I am comfortable and don't make others uncomfortable. I highly doubt I am the only woman to think these supposed sex differences are blown vastly out of proportion, but of course that is not a popular idea. Noe is the idea that an emotion obsessed insular group with no common theme beyond entertaining eachother is even more likely to turn toxic than a male dominated fishing (or whatever) group.
Croatia is beautiful. But if you’re gonna make it there, hop on over to Ohrid in Macedonia. It’s magical. And if you’re gonna go that far, might as well visit the Black Sea: my hometown Burgas is gonna be buzzing in the spring time.